I have not had a date in months. Months. Maybe it’ll be more dramatic if I say it in all caps: MONTHS. Why, you ask? I’m single, I’m sassy. I’ve just felt completely unmotivated to date. For an extended period of time, I was dealing with a serious personal issue that brought my self-esteem way, way down low and only recently have I been able to bring it back up. So, would you want to date a depressed person who felt like she was worth very little?

Neither would I. It’s taken a lot of personal strength and growth to get back to my usual place of self worth and confidence, and I’m almost fully back! I’m not eager to jump back into the world of online dating. It’s such a pattern with me. A guy looks at my profile and sends me a very blasé message that usually says “hi” or “how are you?” And then he proceeds to try to engage me in a very uninteresting conversation. Or, he wants my phone number so he can begin texting me incessantly. Yawn. It never goes anywhere and I lose interest so quickly. (This is why I teach a class on this stuff, ladies and gentleman, to help break these cycles!)

How else am I going to meet guys? I’ve tried everything. I’m a loss now. I told my therapist that I’ve given up home on ever meeting someone. She, fortunately, has not given up hope and has assured me that she has ideas in store. Trying hard to find a nugget of hope.

On the other hand, there are a lot of wonderful elements in my life. I love my freedom, independence, and spontaneity. Still, I have 6 chairs around my dining room table. Let’s try to fill at least 2 of them every night!